The
True Nature of Love
Part 2: Love as Freedom
“The
Universal Creative Force, as I understand it, is the energy field
of ALL THAT IS vibrating at the frequency of Absolute Harmony.
That vibrational frequency I call LOVE. (LOVE is the vibrational
frequency of God; Love is an energy vibration within The Illusion
which we can access; love is, in our Codependent culture, most often
an addiction or an excuse for dysfunctional behavior.)
LOVE is the energy frequency of Absolute Harmony because it is the
vibrational frequency where there is no separation.
Energy moves in wave-like patterns; what enables movement is the separation
between the valley of the wave and its peak. The distance from
peak to peak is called it’s wavelength. It is a law of
physics that as vibrational frequency rises, as it gets higher, the
wavelength gets shorter. The frequency of LOVE is the vibrational
frequency where wavelength disappears, where separation disappears.
It is a place of absolute Peace, motionless, timeless, completely
at rest: The Eternal Now.
The Peace and Bliss of The Eternal Now is the True Absolute Reality
of the God-Force.”
~Codependence:
The Dance of Wounded Souls
What is Love? That is the question.
I have been quite balled up the last week in attempting to write this
column. No, that is not quite true - I have been unable to get
into a space to even attempt to write this column. I need to
get into a certain space - need to be feeling a special kind of creative
energy - to write about a topic such as this. It was much easier
to write last month’s column about “what Love is not.”
Then I was writing about something much more concrete, much more black
and white (the irony of this - since one of the characteristics of
the disease is black and white thinking - is fodder for a completely
different column.) The dynamics of the disease and the wounding
process are very clear in my eyes. I have experienced the type
of love that is shaming, abusive, manipulative, smothering, intrusive,
addictive, etc., my whole life.
In fact, I learned a new word while writing this column. As
I was composing the above paragraph, and taking note of how much easier
it was to write last month’s column, the word empirical came
to mind. So, I did what comes naturally when a word pops to
mind - I looked it up.
empirical
1. Relating to or based on experience or observation. 2. Relying
entirely or to excess upon direct, repeated, and uncritically accepted
experience: opposed to metempirical.
Aha, a new word.
metempirical 1. Lying beyond the bounds of experience,
as intuitive principles; not derived from experience; transcendental.
So,
even though I just said that it was easier to write ‘what Love
is not’ because of my experience - in Truth when I say that Love
is not shaming and abusive, I am actually stating my intuitive Truth.
If I were just relying on my experience, I would say “love is shaming
and abusive and controlling,” “love is being responsible for
other people’s feelings and well being,” etc. - and that would
be the Truth about love with a small l. When I say Love is not
shaming, I am talking about the True Nature of Love as I intuitively
understand it. Once I started to awaken to the reality that civilized
society on this planet was based upon some false beliefs, then I started
to be able to validate my intuitive feeling that something was dreadfully
wrong here. I Knew deep inside, from a very young age, that this
was not my home. I Knew that Love, if it was really such a wonderful
thing, should not be so painful - just as I Knew it was ridiculous for
both sides in a war to think that God was on their side and would help
them kill the enemy.
I could feel that Love must be something much greater than I had learned
growing up. If Love is so wonderful, if Love is the answer - then
Love should set us Free. That is what coming up as I write this
column - Love that is Freedom. Love that is Joy. Love that
is the only Truth that has ever mattered.
Love that is Freedom - what does that mean? To me it means the
Freedom to be OK with being me. The Freedom to relax and enJoy
the moment. The Freedom to be - just be, without having to strive,
to work for, to try to reach, to prove myself, to earn Love, to get
“there.”
It means: Freedom from shame. Freedom from judgment. Freedom
from loneliness. Freedom from feeling separate, different, not
a part of, not acceptable. Freedom from the endless, aching longing
for something more. Freedom from the hole in my soul - from the
bottomless abyss of pain and shame and sadness that I feel at the core
of my being.
This place is not my home. When I yearn for Love, I am longing
to go home.
“I was ‘transported with Joy’,
and my ‘spirit was soaring’, as I danced on the rock.
And in my dancing and singing I Truly understood what those expressions
meant. For in being ‘transported’ and ‘soaring’
I was merely tuning into the vibrational frequency that is Joy and Love
and Truth. I could see clearly now how human beings throughout
history had been trying to tune into Love. The primal urge that
has caused humans to attempt to ‘alter their consciousness’,
through drugs or religion or food or meditation or whatever, is no more
than an attempt to raise one’s vibrational frequency. All
any soul in body has ever done is to try to return home to God - we
were just doing it all backwards because of the reversity of the planets
energy field.”
The Dance of The Wounded Souls Trilogy Book 1 “In The Beginning
. . . ’ (Chapter 4)
Humans have always been looking for a way home.
For a way to connect with our Higher Consciousness. For a way
to reconnect with our creator. Throughout human history, human
beings have used temporary artificial means to raise their vibrational
level, to try to reconnect with Higher Consciousness.
Drugs and alcohol, meditation and exercise, sex and religion, starvation
and overeating, the self-torture of the flagellant or the deprivation
of the hermit - all are attempts to connect with higher consciousness.
Attempts to reconnect with Spiritual Self. Attempts to go
home.”
Codependence:
The Dance of Wounded Souls.
Part of the reason that I have had trouble in writing this column is
because of the intellectual context I was approaching it from.
I was thinking that I had to know what I was talking about, had to be
able to communicate to you the Truth about Love. That was pretty
silly of me.* Love is what I am learning about. Love is
what recovery and healing are all about. Love is the goal.
Love is home.
*Actually, it was my disease at work - causing me to judge and shame
myself for not feeling competent to write about the True Nature of Love.
This disease of codependence is so incredibly insidious, treacherous,
and powerful. It continually turns back in on itself. The
disease doesn’t want me to take the risk of Loving and trusting
my self and then it turns around and causes me to judge myself because
I don’t Love my self. I don’t Love myself because of
the disease - the ego programming that is a result of being wounded
and traumatized by being Spiritually orphaned in an alien environment.
By being born into and raised in an emotionally dishonest and dysfunctional,
Spiritually hostile, shame based, Love mutilated (mutilate - 1. To deprive
of a limb or essential part. 2. To damage or injure by the removal of
an important part.) civilization on a planet where civilized societies
have evolved based on the belief in separation and fear-based hostility
- separation between beings, separation between humans and their environment,
and separation between the flesh and the Spirit. The civilization
I was raised in is so sick and twisted that it took the teachings of
the Master Teacher who came into body to teach us about Love and twisted
those teachings into something shameful and hate-filled. Jesus
Christ carried a message of Love - not shame and judgment.
“Due to the planetary conditions, the human ego developed a belief
in separation - which is what made violence possible and caused the
human condition as we inherited it. The reflection of that human condition
on the individual level is the disease of Codependence. Codependence
is caused by the ego being traumatized and programed in early childhood
so that our relationship with ourselves and the God-Force is dysfunctional
- that is, it does not work to help us access the Truth of ONENESS
and Love. It is through healing our relationship with ourselves that
we open our inner channel and start tuning into the Truth.”
Column: Jesus & Christ Consciousness by Robert Burney
Now
what I thought last month was going to be one column about the True
Nature of Love has turned into at least a 4 part series. In
dealing with the shame I was feeling about not knowing enough about
Love to write about it’s True Nature, I have in fact been processing
through that shame to get to a place where I can be free to write
about the type of Love that can set me Free. So, I will save
“Love as a vibrational frequency” and “Love and romance”
for future columns.
I have only a little experience with feeling Love that sets me Free
- and that has come primarily since I have been in recovery.
In those moments when I am able to connect with Love in it’s
True form, then I feel that all of the pain and suffering has been
worth the experience. Then I get a taste of what home really
feels like. Then I get to feel the Joy and Truth and Love that
Truly does set me Free from the illusion of separation. In those
moments, I can sometimes even feel grateful for that illusion.
Because without the illusion of separation from The Source Energy,
from Love - I would never have gotten the opportunity to experience
Love.
I am going to end this column with a continuation of the quote from
my book
“The Dance of Wounded Souls” which I started it with.
This quote is from the very end of my book. This is my intuitive
Truth. This is an important part of the understanding which
has led to the beginning of my liberation from the shame. This
Truth has helped me to start Loving myself a little bit - to start
Loving myself enough to be Free to start believing that maybe, just
maybe I am Lovable and Loved.
"The Peace and Bliss of The Eternal Now
is the True Absolute Reality of the God-Force.
The illusion of separation - the distance, the separation, between
the peak and the valley - is what makes motion possible. Separation
is necessary for energy to be in motion. The illusion of separation
was necessary to create The Illusion.
As part of the ONENESS of ALL THAT IS, we are God and God is LOVE.
We are part of the Truth of ONENESS vibrating at LOVE. As part
of the ONENESS of LOVE we would never have been able to experience
Love. It is kind of like, “If you are sugar then you never
get to taste sugar.”
In God we are LOVE. Without the illusion of separation we would
never have had the opportunity to experience Love. Would never
have been able to Love and be Loved.
Separation was necessary to allow us the incredible gift of experiencing
Love, of Loving and being Loved.
The Illusion that caused all of the pain is also the vehicle for
allowing us to feel and be Loved.
If you pursue your path of healing, I think that you will find as
I have that it is very much worth it. It is worth it to be able
to experience Love.
This is the Age of Healing and Joy. It is time to start remembering
who you Truly are, to start feeling and tuning into the Truth which
exists within you.
We are all butterflies.
We are all swans.
We are Spiritual Beings.
The Springtime of the Spirit has arrived: It is possible to
learn to Love yourself.
It is possible to be happy, Joyous, and free - if you are willing
to be scared and hurt, angry and sad.
You are Lovable.
You are Loved.
You are LOVE."
Copyright
1999 by Robert Burney. Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls Copyright
1995 by Robert Burney PO Box 977 Cambria CA 93428
Robert
Burney's website:
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